Ramble Writing of R.D. Hayes

One way to deal with stress is to figure out what is stressing you in your life. I deal with stress on the daily and it tends to keep me on my toes. Stress comes in all forms, but is often triggered by our own emotions. These are just a few tips that I have found that have helped me to deal with stress. Take what you need to from this little tidbit and put it to good use and deal with your stress instead of letting it deal with you.    What triggers your stress?   Learn to identify your stress. If you need to, jot down all the horrible things that have crossed paths with you today and how you dealt with it. If you are like me, full of bad luck, then you may need to just carry around a notebook and pen everywhere you go.    Identify your emotions   Emotions aren't just bad emotions; there are good emotions too. Learn to recognize your good and bad emotions and what was happening during this time. If you are having positive emotions then try to hang onto that...

Stressful situations always seem to find me. It does not matter how hard I try to keep myself away from them, stress has just become a part of my life. When dealing with stress I began to ask myself a few key questions that helped me to cope with stress so that I would have a better outcome instead of burring my head in a pillow and screaming to the top of my lungs.    Stress is defined, in my own terms, as that overwhelming feeling you get when nothing seems to go right. It is what you feel when the kids start screaming while you are trying to get work done, it is your boss who keeps hounding you about the reports that seem to be never-ending, it is your finances that are piling up on the counter. Stress comes in all shapes and sizes, it is how we handle this stress that will help us to lead a better life.    One question that I started asking myself is, is this going to matter in five years?    If your answer was no, then why make yourself stressed to th...

"You must do the things you think you cannot do." - Eleanor Roosevelt.  This quote is one of the many quotes that I find inspiration in. If you stop and think about what it means, you will figure out that it is telling you to do all the things that you want to do in life even if you do not think that you can do them. If you want real inspiration, continue reading.    There was a time in my life when I did not think that I could accomplish anything. I did not have the moral support that I needed or the friends and family to push me to succeed. I failed at everything that I did, but it was not because I was dumb or ignorant, it was because I gave up too easily.    I would find something that I liked, but I would never complete them. I was too stubborn to take the advice of anyone that I knew, so I just continued in my own path. That very path is what lead me to this article.    I was stubborn, hard headed, and maybe even a little too relaxed when it came...

Decision making in times of stress is what a lot of us would call a fight or flight decision. Sometimes you may not make the best decision and it could leave you crippling in fear or cause you to lose a lot more than you intended to.    For instance; Rhonda often found herself trying to make decisions while she was stressed, and at the time it seemed like her decisions were the best for her. She would later realize, like many of us do, that the decisions she made weren't the best options but at the time, she didn't feel that she had much of an option so she took that risk.   If you find yourself in a stressful environment and you need to make an on the spot decision, please read through these tips and use them to your advantage.    Look at the highs and lows of the outcome   Before you leap to a decision, ask yourself what the outcome might be. What are likely to gain or lose from the situation? Is it going to be one that you might regret? Don't jump to t...

Telling personal stories while trying to teach a class can make you feel vulnerable, especially if you are like me and don't like to talk about your past or the people that helped to create that past.    I was told to do a class on heat and cold injuries in front of my peers. I was informed of this a month ago. I am a procrastinator, this is what I am and I am not proud of it. So, like most people who procrastinate, I put it off until the very last minute and then ran myself crazy trying to put it together.    Death by PowerPoint; this is was not my intentions at all. I was originally told that I could get up in front of the class and do it but, a few days before the class I was informed that it had to be a power point. I freaked! I freaked because I had no earthly idea on how to even get started, I freaked because I hadn't even studied on the class, I freaked because I was going to be put to shame in front of all of my peers. It was going to be a wreck and I felt li...

The hardest part of being me was that I sometimes didn't know how to be me. I had struggled daily trying to figure out who I was. I did not know from one day to the next if I was even happy with myself.    I had dated this guy for months in an on again off again relationship. The kind of relationship that leaves everyone asking why. We may or may not have caused each other more anguish  than intended, but I needed to know why I couldn't hold down a relationship.    I called him daily. You are probably wondering why I would call someone that I was trying to move on from. Well, let me explain.    This guy wasn't your average Joe; he was smart, charming, and made more sense than anyone I had ever met. He used logic on everything that he did. He never questioned logic, not like me anyways. I would think of a million reasons why I had to do it even if it did not make sense. He, on the other hand, would stop and take time to think about it as a whole and dec...